Sacred Sexuality (Unlocking Our Superpowers)

I view Sexuality as an integral part of life. We literally come from sex, and create new life through sex. One of my Spiritual Mentors often says, “Let’s just accept that everything in nature is essentially having sex with everything else!” The flowers and the bees, the wind and the trees, and everything in between. In 7th grade, I went on Safari in Botswana with a friend and his family. I got a firsthand glimpse of “how they do it on the Discovery Channel.” The lions, wildebeest, and other animals were getting jiggy all the time, regardless of who was watching!

I consider “Sacred Sexuality” to be the practice of sexuality in a conscious, healthy manner. This means that Consent, Setting Boundaries, and Clear Communication are key elements. Sacred Sexuality is a way to honor all the subtleties and nuances of intimacy instead of viewing sex as a means to an end, or a fleeting experience. By honoring sex as the incredible miracle that it is, you allow for deep healing, more pleasure, and even “transcendent experiences.”

I am not an expert in Kama Sutra, and I am still healing a lot of conditioning around sexual shame and repression. I’ve dedicated myself to using clear, conscious communication with my sexual partners. Through this process, I’ve been able to release many fears and enjoy sexual intimacy at a deeper level.

I’ve included Sacred Sexuality in this chapter of “Processing Energy” because it can be an incredible tool for moving, directing, and releasing energy. As you allow the powerful currents of sexual energy to move through your body, it can help to break up stagnation, enhance blood and energy flow, as well as release tons of beneficial neurochemicals such as oxytocin and dopamine.

As taboo as many view it, I believe that anal pleasure is an important aspect of Sacred Sexuality. After all, why would we have so many nerves capable of feeling pleasure in and around our anuses, if they were not meant to experience pleasure? This territory is very new to me, so I won’t pretend to be an expert on it. I recently got a “Sensuelle Homme Pro” (made for male prostate stimulation) which has been adding amazing vibrations to my intimate experiences. I believe that vibrating sexual toys help our entire BodyMind System raise its vibratory rate, which brings us into a state of joy, ecstasy, and optimal health. If you have resistance to anal stimulation, that is okay, but that might also be a sign that it’s something to explore and learn more about.

Whether you are pleasuring yourself or exploring with a partner, I invite you to explore your desires and honor them as sacred — not something to be ashamed of. It is our birthright to experience the immense pleasure, joy, bliss, and healing that can come through this practice. Creating a sacred space or even a little ceremony for “sexy time” is a beautiful way to explore deeper. In the same way that creating the environment for creating art changes everything, you can set the tone or mood with certain elements like candles, music, incense, and dark chocolate :) You can even set an intention, or focus the energy of sex towards a specific creative project.

Here are a few questions to investigate on Sacred Sexuality :

1. What sexual desires do you have that you have not yet explored much?

2. What beliefs / limiting stories around sexuality do you have that are not serving you?

3. What sort of environment feels like it will get you and / or your partner in the mood?